THE iKiFit BLOG

Join iKiFit founder, Kim Macrae for snippets about education, life choices and self empowerment that encourage us to be the best version of ourselves - Every Single Day! (Click below to hear iKi Crews Every Single Day excerpt. Full version for sale on iTunes).

Life Coach and working mum Amy shares her experiences of how iKi helps her meet the challenges of juggling children, partner and career, while striving to be a happy, healthy strong role model. And staying sane!.

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Happy Holiday Season

Thursday, December 21, 2017

 

The final run up to Christmas is just what we’ve come to expect: Summer has arrived with a furnace blast, we’re in a mad rush to get everything finished in time for the big day and if things can go wrong they have. If we’re lucky enough to get time to reflect it can be easy to wonder: Does Christmas herald a time of fellowship, good cheer, love and family – or is it a commercial orgy of anxiety, consumption and manic stress?

It’s like most things in life – it all depends on how we look at it. What we choose to focus on. Yes, this time of year can be a “crazy busy’ rush to get everything done. Stress, struggle strain. Or it can be a satisfying time of putting a full stop on the year, tidying up loose ends, being grateful for the good things that have happened and the people who have enriched our lives.

I must admit, there were times in years past when the greenie, pinko whinger in me ranted about the “capitalist excess” the fake “peace on earth” and the silly stress. But I’ve learned to get over myself and focus on the wonderful elements of Christmas: the commencement of Summer break, celebrations with family and friends, time to spend on gratitude, catching up and rest. I know of many friends and acquaintances who are going through awful health and life challenges at the moment. My heart goes out to you and I wish you all the very best – luck, health and love.
Also, a huge thank you to the many people who have supported, worked with and encouraged myself and iKi.
There are so many wonderful people in my world. Thank you.

Best wishes to everyone for the New Year - the time to celebrate that most fantastic of all human abilities – HOPE.



Next year will bring endings, as well as beginnings. No doubt 2018 will have its’ challenges and some bad things will happen. That’s life and always has been, but opportunities will arise, and great things will happen as well. Things will happen that are beyond our control - but our attitude and actions will determine what comes next.

I’ve learned to regularly remind myself how very fortunate we are to live in this place and time. Even 20 years ago, many health conditions were untreatable that are now routinely beaten. Opportunities are endless and most of us live in safety and comfort. We can find much to complain about if we try but our system works, most of the time. We live in a crazy world and some Aussies have it tough, but speaking for myself, I think most of us are SO lucky.

And we have hope.

I’m taking a break and will return in mid January. See you next year.

Happy hopeful holiday,
Kim.

 


Be Persistent - Never Give Up!

Thursday, November 30, 2017

 

There is a ‘saying’ in real estate that there are 3 key ingredients to success; Position, position, position.
In achieving goals there are three as well. Persistence, persistence, persistence.

The Battle of Britain ranks as one of the great stories of beating the odds. The British Air Force were outnumbered by more than 3 to 1, yet they beat off their attackers. That historic victory was led by Winston Churchill, Prime Minister at the time, who said - “We will never, never, never, give up”

I remember years ago the world was shocked when it was revealed from private diaries that Mother Teresa suffered lifelong attacks of doubt. We shouldn’t have been surprised, as she was human like the rest of us. We all suffer doubt and fears sometimes.

Recently I was at a point where I needed a boost and happened on this poem in Paul Hanna’s book “You can do it”
I liked it so much I printed it out and read it regularly. I hope you like it too.

When things go wrong as they sometimes will,
When the road you’re trudging seems all uphill
When the funds are low and the debts are high
And you want to smile but you have to sigh
When care is pressing you down a bit
Rest if you must but don’t you quit

Life is strange with its’ twists and turns
As every one of us sometimes learns
And many a person turns about
When they might have won had they stuck it out
Don’t give up though the pace seems slow
You may succeed with another go
 
Often the goal is nearer than it seems
To a faint and faltering person
Often the struggler has given up
When they might have captured the victors cup
And they learned too late when the night came down
How close they were to the golden crown
 
Success is failure turned inside out
The silver tint of the clouds of doubt
And you never can tell how close you are
It may be near when it seems so far
So stick to the fight when you’re hardest hit-
It’s when things seem worst that you mustn’t quit.
 
Remember, success is a journey, not a destination.
Kim

 


Look, Listen - put that technology down!

Tuesday, November 14, 2017

 

Recently I was doing some additional hours from home on an urgent work project and was frantically juggling my work hat, domestic hat, wife hat and mum hat, all the while with a deadline looming over my head.

I had set Mr. 3 up in the lounge-room near me, around me, just not on me! - to play happily on the floor whilst I kept plugging away at my work.

Every now and then he would come up and show me the latest masterpiece he had built with his bright coloured bricks. Each time, only a few bricks differed from the previous sample.

Over a period of half an hour I obviously got a bit less enthusiastic with my responses of "Wow, aren't you clever, can you build something even bigger for Mummy" or "Cool, Buddy you are such a big boy being able to build that all by yourself" - or at least they must not have been to an acceptable standard, as suddenly Mr 3 was sitting up on top of me, squishing my face in his hands and pulling my head towards him.

I stopped what I was doing and looked at him, trying to breathe and not lose my temper, as the 'deadline pressure' washed over my whole body.

With my squished face like a ball of play dough in his chubby little hands, he eye balled me and in his most 'teacher-like' voice said "Mummy, Look, Listen & Learn Mummy. You not listen to me Mummy".

I said "I'm sorry darling, Mummy has been busy doing my work and you have been such a good boy playing by yourself while I do that. Why did you say I need to 'Look, Listen & Learn?"

Mr 3 said "I was talking a you and you not looking at me, you not listen to me Mummy. I love you this much (stretching his arms out wide) BUT you need to listen to me and look at me when I tell you".

NOW - Firstly can I just point out - how early the iKi Rulz stick for a child when embedded from an early age (both at home and at long day care - I can't take all the credit). Secondly, how brilliant that my Mr 3 understands how to apply them, and to voice how my behaviour is making him feel.

SO - What do we learn from this? It's like the saying goes "Do as I say, not as I do" Except not, it's "Do as I say and as I do" If we expect our children to grow into the happy, healthy, strong, respectful, contributing members of society we so want them to be - then we need to show them what that looks like. Because they ARE watching and they ARE listening! And they ARE learning all the time!!

When we ask our children to look at us when we are speaking to them, if we expect them to not continue playing their technology, then we must do the same. If we ask our children to use their inside voices and use words not actions to describe how they are feeling, then we must do the same. If we want our children to grow up to respect themselves, their siblings, their neighbours - then we must do the same.
So, in case you need some help with the basics, like I did (thanks Mr 3 for the shake up) - here is a little reminder:

1. Look, Listen, Learn - look and listen and you will learn and allow others to learn also.
2. I'm Ok, You're Ok - treat others the way you wish to be treated.
3. No Play, No Play - if you don't play by the rules there may be consequences.
4. Eat Well, Live Well - eat a healthy, balanced, nutritious diet and you will live a happy healthy life.
 
To get some help implementing these core life values into your home and get the whole family working as a Happy, Healthy, Strong
Team - why not sign up for an online membership - find out more by clicking here

 

Enjoy your week, Active Aspiring Amy. 

 


GRIT!

Monday, October 30, 2017

GRIT - Equipping our children to become the best they can be! 

The world is changing fast but some things stay the same. The big question for parents everywhere has always been “How do we equip our children to become the best they can be - happy, contributing members of the “teams” that are our families, schools, workplaces and communities?”

There are lots of theories – but the answer that sums it up best is - “Grit” – that mixture of resilience, stamina and determination that comes from understanding that challenge, struggle and pain are an integral part of the journey of life and that learning from ‘failure’ builds strength of character and wisdom.

Research - and common sense - suggest that a key ingredient of grit is the strength we gain by learning positive lessons from our mistakes, and by making habits of the thoughts, actions and behaviours that are life affirming.

Children thrive when they feel the security that comes from clear, consistent rules, when guidelines are the same for everyone and designed to build respect – for each other, for their own property and the property of others. They develop grit (resilience) in safe places where the consequences of their actions and behaviours are fair and consistent.

That’s not to say they should to be coddled – far from it. It’s not about being protected from all danger – it’s about them feeling that they know the rules of the particular context – the game, the place or circumstance they are in.

We all learn best when we feel secure and “game” enough to try things, in the knowledge that we won’t be scorned for failures and that our progress and successes will be acknowledged and valued.

 

Hear more on the positive affects of "Grit" from TED Talk presenter Angela Lee Duckworth in the video below. 

 

 

 

 


Every Single Day in So Many Ways - We Can Get Better!

Wednesday, October 18, 2017

Welcome to our blog "An iKi Kind of Life" which is based on the theme song "Every Single Day". Read the lyrics below and click here to listen to an excerpt. 

 
EVERY SINGLE DAY (Lyrics) 
 
Every single day, in so many ways we can get better.
Every single day, in so many ways we can get better.

Communicate, delegate, educate, learn to relate
Dedicate, investigate, clean your plate, don’t be late,
Desegregate, invigorate, tell it straight, close the gate
Alliterate, make it great, stop the hate, help your mate

Chorus
Every single day, in so many ways we can get better.
Every single day, in so many ways we can get better.

Idealise, visualise, prioritise and compromise
Secularise, democratise, don’t moralise, learn to be wise
Eat for size, exercise, stoke your fires, reach the skies
Eulogise, characterise, laugh at liars, greet the sunrise

Chorus      Solo      Breakdown

Play football, stand up real tall, take the fall, try it all
Fix your mess, add something fresh, tone your flesh, start afresh
Activate don’t procrastinate, isolate or be a deadweight
Don’t look skin-deep, you’ll miss a heap, take a leap, land on your feet!

Localise, energise, economise, enough’s enoughise
Take the test, reach the crest, don’t distress, do your best
Validate, elucidate, meditate and make it great
Chop chop wood and carry water, live your life the way you aughta
 

About Every Single Day.

This song encapsulates one of the core beliefs at iKi : - that the key to living productive and rewarding lives is in choosing behaviours that lead to positive, life affirming outcomes for our families, our communities and ourselves.

Each week we release a blog based around one of the words in the song – musings on an idea or an activity that can help brighten our own lives and the lives of those around us.

 

Through all of history, parents have shared the common goal for their children to have happier, healthier, more productive lives than they did.

We all know there are challenges to that desire, but at iKi we believe there are many practical ways we can strive to keep the dream alive.

Read on, and we hope you will agree that “Every single day in so many ways we can be better” It’s a matter of attitude, practise and action.

  1. Communicate.

 

No matter how old we are, there are some things we remember clearly from our younger years, while others are a blur.

One occasion I remember clearly was sitting in a potato paddock having a break and discussing the world with a couple of mates. We were about 14 years old at the time. I recall we agreed that the world would be a much better place “if we could just communicate”.

But even in our early teens – when we knew we knew so much - we understood that was no simple thing. There are so MANY things to disagree about - with 40 different words for snow, 600 models of cars, multiple life choices, not to even begin to mention politics and religion. We were the same age and gender, from the same small town, with similar interests, speaking the same language - and we still disagreed on lots of things.

We agreed there was ample room for misunderstandings to arise in the real world. Remember, this was before smart phones, thousands of TV channels and the myriad other new distractions demanding our attention, our opinion, our time and money. The risk of being misunderstood, misheard or mistaken is so vast it’s a wonder we agree on anything.


So, with this in mind, this week (and all weeks hereafter) take extra care when communicating. Let’s be clearer when we text. Follow up emails with a call to be sure it’s understood. When interacting face to face, be mindful of our body language and our tone of voice, Take time to listen to the other persons’ point of view.

 

Take a little more care and save a mess of stress by making sure we’re on the same page. After all, we’re all in the same story.

Clear communication is easier when we are healthy and relaxed-- so make some time to energise yourself. Do an energiser now. Take a quick walk around, do a stretch. Go outside and breathe. Your head will be clearer and you’ll see a brighter world. One where we understand each other better, because we take care to communicate more clearly.

 

How do we teach our students, our own children to this valuable life lesson? iKi SRL helps us communicate clearly. The Rulz make it so much easier for us to understand and agree on what is appropriate behaviour and fair consequences in all contexts. Contact us and learn how easy it is implement in your home or classroom today.

 


Thanks to our Supporters!

Monday, July 24, 2017

A message from Kim in response to all the support received since last Tuesday's episode of Shark Tank:

"I’m SO grateful for, proud of, and excited by the huge amount of support I’ve received after my recent Shark Tank appearance. Yes, it was cringe inducing – and as it was actually filmed almost 10 months ago you may understand I’ve had moments of anxiety knowing what was to come. To put it mildly
.
However, most of the experience was fantastic, - exciting, energizing, lots of fun and REALLY helped get my focus and commitment right. Yes, I got bitten and bashed but learned a LOT and am much stronger for having done it.
One result is that I’d like to make the following statements:-

Firstly, a big, humble thanks to everyone who has supported, worked with, encouraged or just plain tolerated me over the years. 😊 Most of you know I’ve worked hard and long on iKi, but that would have led absolutely nowhere good without your help. I won’t go into names, right here and now, - you know who you are. But thanks!

Secondly, a bit of a summary of why the sharks mauled me so viciously. I had lots of support and prepared well - (I thought) – but missed a couple of ques at the beginning of filming and got unsettled. Once the sharks scented a struggling swimmer they did what sharks do. So please don’t blame them, I just wasn’t well enough prepared and I can laugh about it now. And continue to learn

Finally, I’m proud and excited about the position I am in now, personally and in the iKi business jumping into the next phase and swimming strongly. Sometimes we have to dive in and test our strength.
Thanks again SO much everyone. And watch this space."

Missed the episode and don't know what we are talking about? - catch up on all the action at tenplay.com.au/SharkTank - iKiFit is featured in Episode 5. 


Forcing apologies or modelling empathy!?

Thursday, July 13, 2017

Forcing apologies out of our children, when quite frankly, they really aren't that sorry!


This is a hot topic in my household right now and I just found this great article which helped put things into perspective a little around what age a child really understands empathy. It would seem that Ive had it all wrong in expecting my 2 yr old to say sorry and mean it, or my 6 yr old for that matter. And it goes to show that role modelling is really the best form of parenting there is and one day when our children have matured enough they will be equipped to respond appropriately in most contexts. In the meantime we can use iKi Rulz such as "Im Ok, You're Ok" (treat others the way you want to be treated) to plant the seed with our children around what may be the appropriate way to approach situations when they have hurt someone accidentally or otherwise. To find out more about the iKi Rulz and how to use them in the home click here

 



Reconnect - The key to surviving the school holidays!

Tuesday, July 04, 2017

Ive seen alot of Memes these last few days about surviving the school holidays! Funnily enough alot of them feature an underlying theme of excessive drinking to cope with the insanity of the next two weeks...and it got me thinking "Why?"..
Why should we dread the holidays? A break from the daily routine, a chance for our kids to regroup, unwind and be kids again. Yeah they might start pushing boundaries they haven't had time to push lately, they might expect you to fill every waking minute with activity and fun, or do they - or is this what we've just come to expect of ourselves? Why not make it about the positives.
 
Why not take what little time you have not being dictated to by school and extra curricula activities and RECONNECT with your children. Do some of the simpler things you regularly say no to because you're too busy getting caught up in all the daily rush, like a game of UNO or SNAP or some craft activities (even the messy ones), cook a family meal together or do an iKiEnergiser together for a bit of fun! 😉 Whatever you choose I guarantee your kids will love it. They will love just having you present, completely present - so dont forget to pop the devices away for that time too 😅
 
And if you find the extra time together a little more difficult with your older cherubs and are having trouble reconnecting or even effectively communicating why not throw in the 3 simple iKi Rulz to establish some common ground and get more helpful tips over at iKi SRL @ Home or drop me a line at ikimum@ikifit.com.au
Amy ~ iKi Mum xx


Do as I Do!

Tuesday, June 20, 2017

Its not enough to say the right things to our kids we have to demonstrate them as well!

This term my kids and I have worked hard at our local martial arts studio, who share and follow the same 3 simple life values as us, and tonight achieved our gradings. I was so proud of my kids and they were super proud of me. We set SMART goals and achieved them together! This is what living an iKi Life is all about. To start your family on this awesome journey of Safe Respectful Learning - in all contexts - become an iKi SRL @ Home member TODAY! 

 


What can happen when you try to BE EVERYTHING!

Monday, June 12, 2017

WARNING: This is what happens when you try and be everything for everybody all of the time!!

 

SYMPTOMS: Anxiety, Depression, Insomnia, Restless legs, Raising Head, Irritability, Irrationality, Uncontrollable Emotions, Unexplainable Outbursts. And that's just whats going on on the inside!

 

You've got to ask yourself...is it really worth it!

People often say to me "You're so organised, you are so good at everything, how do you do it all?"...
The truth... By lying to myself about what is really OK and what is really acceptable and allowing myself to think that anything less would somehow make me weak, or inferior or ineligible...

How can we ever be the true, fair dinkum, authentic, stable and sustainable models we wish to be for our children when we allow external influences such as social media, friends, social groups, blogs, books, magazines, tv and radio to rule our lives and how we perceive we should be.

All that does is leads us to a deep dark place where we can no longer function and find ourselves curled up in a ball unable to complete even the simplest tasks because our energy bucket is empty...we gave it all away... and to who? Not our children, or our family who matter most. Unfortunately in all our effort to be "the best" or "the perfect" - they actually quite often end up with the dregs.

So this morning as I sit here feeling overwhelmed again by the precedence Ive set myself and how Ill possibly keep up the "perfect" charade another day..I say.. Treat YOURSELF the way you would want OTHERS to treat THEMSELVES - with kindness, fairness, nurturing, realism, practicality and love. Listen to the advice you're giving others. If its good enough for them....

Give yourself a break, take heed, breathe and get back in touch with you and maybe drop a few of those balls you've got up there in the air. Otherwise you might end up looking like the crazy lady in this picture!! Xx